I miss you so much, Blakey. It comforts me to know that you are in a peaceful place watching down on us. I'm sure you are tearing up Heaven's dance floor as we speak. I'm so thankful that you came into my life, and that I got to call you one of my best friends! I love you so much, Blake, and I will keep you in my heart always!
It’s hard for me to know what to say, as I was just four days short of meeting Blake... But, I would love to tell his friends and family I am so deeply sorry! I feel selfishly jealous I never experienced the light that shines through Blake’s pictures, in person. Blake, I want you to know that meeting you this Christmas was something I was looking forward to more than anything. We missed our chance this time, but we will meet someday… until then, I will celebrate your life with those who were blessed by knowing you!
Blake, thank you for the joy, love and laughter that you shared with your friends and particularly with my daughter, Madison. You touched their lives and that makes you a rare and radiant Light. May the incredible PEACE that passes understanding now abide not only with you but also with your friends and family. Love conquers all...you are only a thought away...bless you!
Blake, I enjoyed all of our long talks, us making each other laugh, your tender heart, your thoughts, throwing the baseball around. Most importantly, you being my brother Colin's best friend. You both had a brotherly bond and everlasting friendship. Friends are a real testament to each individual, it says a lot about your character. You always know who your friends are in this world, those that love and care about you. Friends are those you love and cry with, someone you can count on always and someone you can trust. Your friend is someone you pal-around with. They're your bro, partna, amigo, dogg and of course bestfriend. I know Colin would of done anything in this world for you as you were like a brother to him. Our family will always love you and keep our stories of you alive and dear to our heart. Love You Buddy, Shane
I only had the pleasure of meeting Blake once, but I loved him immediately. You could see in his eyes that he was a special person with a wonderful heart and a beautiful smile. He will be missed dearly by all of the lives and hearts that he touched. To his family and friends, may you find comfort in the fact that Blake is home with Jesus and now we all have a special angel in heaven.
Blake, You have no idea the impact you had on my life. Ever since that summer after senior year when we worked for that contruction company we have become so close. You were there when times were rough and made them easy. Anytime that I had a problem you were there to talk to and to cheer me up, not knowing how you really felt inside. This is going to be so hard to get through but I know that you are in heaven continuing to extend your love and happiness. I have never had a friend that compares to the compassion you have for others. You were never selfish or conceited, you always cared about others first then yourself. Being around you made me a better person and your love and kindness was contagious. I have so many stories about times when you put others before yourself. I am so glad that the power went out in Norman and i got to spend pretty much four days straight at your apartment and talk about everything we have gone through this semester with nothing but blankets and candles lit. It meant so much to me that even when you had no money you still went to the gtocery store and bought enough chili ingredients to feed the Tulsa Boys Home. You always got excited when it came to food. That probably the best three way chili I have ever eaten. It was so good we ate it for three days straight. I have so much to say and so many great memories that we shared. I could never thank you enough for the things that I have learned from you. You are an amazing person and I will never forget the times that we had together. You and Colin are the brothers I never had and always wanted. I love you pimpin... B-Town
Blake- I just saw you on my birthday. It is crazy to think that you have left us. I remember that night asking if you were doing okay. A few days letter you sent me a message letting me know that you were doing very good and you really appreciated my concern. More so Blake, All of us really appreciated your laughter and jokes! Your humor and sensitivity. You were amazing person and I know that you knew that. I hope that you are at peace with everything that has happend in your life, and I know you are in a wonderful place! You will be missed so dearly and I know you will watch over all of us and our well being. Love and Miss you dear friend.
Hi Blakey. It's Christmas. I've been thinking about you since the moment I woke up. I've been watching your favorite Christmas movie A Christmas Story...I remember your dad would write Don't shoot your eye out on your Christmas presents! Blake, I only wish you knew how much you have changed my life. Because of you, I know how to truely love and how to be treated. You treated me like an angel, and like I was the only girl in the entire world. I love you for making me feel so special showing me what true love is all about. You make me want to be a better person every single day because of how kind you were to others. You never judged anyone you were just simply so kind and loving to every person you met...(literally we could be standing in a line at walgreens and you would be best friends with them by the time we left! haha)I will never forget our closeness, our talks, your eyes, and most of all the secrets we told. Sitting on the back porch at my lake that night I will never forget what you told me. I will hold that in my heart forever. I love you so much Blake and will thank God every single day that I was allowed to have such an incredible person in my life. I feel so blessed to have known you and want to thank you for making me want to be a better person. It hurts so bad but just knowing you are out of pain and in the most wonderful place puts me at peace....and for that I am so happy. I will forever love you. "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine"...Til' Infinity
I miss you and love you! Jen
tears well up just thinking about you. you were something else! the hardest thing for me is knowing that my son wont ever get to experience your energy. that was some good energy my man. i wish you had known your effect on people. everyone loved you. everyone still does. everyone will forever. that is why when you came to celebrate your birthday in lawrence, i would come home from work to see you hanging out with MY friends from kansas, in MY house! i wont ever forget you blaker...i dont know if anyone will.
Blake, Its been a long time my friend. We lost contact after I left St. Mary's but it seems like just yesterday when we were in Kindergarten and 1st grade raising havoc with AJ, or having our little weekend play dates at our houses. Man I miss those days and will never forget them! Well my friend, I know your up there looking down upon all of us, and my thoughts and prayers are with your parents and sister. Rest in Peace my friend!
Blake, I remember you fondly. I remember working with you for a short time! You made many of my hard days as a dispatcher easier! My daughter fell in love with you from day one. She was only about 5 or 6 at the time, but I remember her drawing pictures for you and sneaking them into your desk before you came in from the field! I also remember you scaring the heck out of me when you didn't come back in from the field in the evening. I remember calling the hospitals, police, your parents (which got you in trouble! SORRY!!). I stayed for at least 2 hours looking for you! None of the other guys have EVER made me worry that much about them not coming in on time!!! You will be greatly missed!! God bless!!
Blake, you have truely touched all of those hearts who knew you. The last time I saw you over Thanksgiving Break, you told me you changed your major to become a brain surgeon, and of course, me being so gullable, I believed you. But thats the thing, no matter how much time went by not seeing eachother, things never managed to change. You always knew how to make me laugh. I am at peace knowing that your laughter and jokes will stay with all of us forever. There has not been a moment that I haven't thought of you or your family, they are in my thoughts in prayers. I love you Blake.
It's so sad to hear that you are gone. Even though we never really talked after St. Mary's, I've always thought about all my friends from there and what they are doing now. My prayers are with you and your family. Rest in Peace
Blake, I did not know you that well, but when we did hang out, it was always a fun time...Amanda's 21st, who can forget it?! I worked with your mom at Banana Republic and helped her pick out some christmas gifts for you last year. She would always keep me posted on how you were doing so I felt like I really knew you. You will be missed very dearly! Much love and may angels lead you in.
Blake! I didn't get to know you too well after you graduated, but I heard about you quite often. Lol.. we had a class together and you liked to sleep in the back.. but when you were awake.. you kept me laughing. Lorraine says she wishes she got to go look at the lights with you. Everyones going to miss ya buddy!
Meet us at the gates, Blake.
Blake, I miss you so much! It is so hard for me to believe that I won't get to see your smiling face anymore. You were such a great friend to me Blake, to everyone. You and Colin were saving graces in my life and I will never forget you or all the great times we've had. The lake won't be the same without you. I'm glad that you are at peace now, but I still can't help but wish that you were here with us. Love you Blake.
I can not believe that I'am writing this right now! Blake, I can not begin to tell you how much you will be missed. I am so happy that I had the opportunity to meet you that day in math class & be your first friend in Florida. I will miss your refreshing personality & of course those "purdy" blue eyes of yours! You will always have a special little place in my heart! Always a pleasure, Blake! your friend, Nicole xoxoxoxo
Blake you had a smile like sunshine so sad your sun burned out well before your time. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. To his family: my deepest sympathy.
First, thank you Madison for arranging this domain for Blake's memory and giving his friends and family an outlet to remember Blake and the wonderful, special young man he was. Second, many thanks to all of you who have contributed your thoughts and memories of Blake. They are truly a comfort and a blessing to Blake's mother, sister, and myself. Finally, I'd like to share a few of my own thoughts about our son. He truly was my best friend. We shared so much that there is nothing in this world that won't remind me of him. When I turn on Seinfeld, Blake will laugh with me. When I pass Mario's pizza, I'll remember how happy we were sitting across from each other, him dipping each slice in a cup of ranch dressing. Or Cancun salsa. They couldn't bring enough salsa to the table to satisfy him. And the golf matches with Tom and Kyle. God how I'll miss those days under a sunny sky with him, watching him laugh uncontrollably at Tom and I as we struggled to keep ourselves in the game. My love for Blake was unconditional, and I will spend the rest of my life making sure no one forgets the goodness that was in Blake's heart. He was totally unselfish, never material, never judgemental, and loved -- LOVED -- his friends. His good friends, that is. You know who you are. I know who you are. And God bless you for allowing him to be the Blake we'll always remember -- big hugs, big smile and above all, his big "I love you" to those who were special in his life! I also want all of you to know that his Memorial Trust Fund will be used annually to help a child or children who need to believe that there is good in life. Perhaps Blake can send a needy child to camp in the summer, or he can be Santa Claus for a needy child at Christmas. We will let you know who is being helped with the generosity you've provided in his Trust Fund in Blake's name. God Bless You all, and thanks for playing an important role in our son's life. He will be in our hearts forever! -Blake's Best Friend
KATIE CHATHAM
Dear Blake, I am very happy that I got to meet you this year. You have always been very kind to me everytime I saw you. You're outfit was the best at our Halloween party. You are probably the only person I know that could pull of the mexican outfit and play the part too. I think it was the accent that really made the look because everytime I heard your voice I would crack up. I wish you could still be around today, but I know that you are in a better place now. You will be missed. Love, Katie Chatham
January 15, 2008
This Sunday, January 20, 2008, we will celebrate Blake's birthday. There would have been 23 candles on his cake. During the day on Sunday, please take a moment and wish him Happy Birthday. Let him know that we'll always remember him with love and laughter in our hearts, and in faith, we'll one day be able to hold him again in the knowledge that this time, we won't have to let go. Happy Birthday, Son. We miss and love you so much it hurts. Dad
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLAKE ... we love you still and savor the precious moments shared ... those were moments making memories that will last through eternity. "Peace out!"
Happy birthday Blakey boy! I've been thinkin about you all day. Colin, Laura, and I were all out together last night and talked about how you would be turning 23 at midnight! I know that you were right there dancing and laughing with us. Miss and love you so much...xoxo
Happy Birthday Blake! I tried to go to Mario's today with Linda to celebrate your birthday, but of course they were closed. We had Italian instead. I can't believe you would have been 23 today! There still hasn't been a moment that has gone by that I haven't thought of you! All I could think about today was how we had made plans to be at the casino all day. We were going to win big! It was so good to see your dad and Linda this morning! They are such wonderful people that love you so dearly! I now know where you got your big heart! Thank you Blake for all the WONDERFUL memories that you gave me. I will love you always!
Blakey!! You made me laugh like nobody I have ever known, I have to say I probably have not ever had so much fun with someone, you were always quick...but I got I pretty good :) We will always miss you here in the FLA! Cannot wait to go to Chase's this summer and have one (or a few) for you!! My baby is due at the end of June and its a shame she wont get to know you, but we feel your love :) I will miss your pop up out of nowhere phone calls!! Miss you!!
Blake: You are the man! I always enjoyed being around you. Clint and Spencer always thought you were soooooo coooool. You always made them feel wanted, special and glad YOU were their cousin. I'm sad you won't physically be with us for the upcoming summer extravaganza in Jackson Hole at Club Bowles as we had planned but, we will toast you and we'll talk with you around the campfire and Hasty Bake.....Love ya big fella, Uncle Jim
If you're reading this, it may be your first visit, or you obviously had a relationship with our son that compels you to return to the site to see if there's anything new on it. Perhaps a new guestbook entry, photograph, or poem. And as you can see, Blake's friend, Madison, is doing a wonderful job keeping it fresh and easy to navigate. It's now been over a month since we said goodbye to Blake, but a day doesn't go by without those precious silent moments late at night or driving down the street of envisioning his face and smile in our minds eye, feeling his warm embrace, and hearing his voice say “I love you.” Tears still come easy, but they are starting to come now with the happy memories he left behind, and not from the devastating sadness we felt in December and early January. Thank you all for your wonderful thoughts and prayers for Jill, Lauren and me during this time. You have no idea the strength and comfort they brought us when we needed it most -- Blake's Dad.
FREE BIRD--BY LYNARD SKYNARD If I leave here tomorrow would you still remember me? For I must be travelling on, now, cause there's too many places I've got to see. But, if I stayed here with you, girl, Things just couldn't be the same. Cause I'm as free as a bird now, and this bird you can not change. Lord knows, I can't change. Bye, bye, its been a sweet love. Though this feeling I can't change. But please don't take it badly, cause lord knows I'm to blame. But, if I stayed here with you girl, things just couldn't be the same. Cause I'm as free as a bird now, and this bird you'll never change. And this bird you cannot change. Lord knows, I can't change. Lord help me, I can't change. SIMPLE MAN--BY LYNARD SKYNARD Mama told me when I was young, come sit beside me, my only son And listen closely to what I say. And if you do this It will help you some sunny day. Take your time... don't live too fast, Troubles will come and they will pass. Go find a woman and you'll find love, And don't forget son, There is someone up above. (chorus) And be a simple kind of man. Be something you love and understand. Be a simple kind of man. Won't you do this for me son, If you can? Forget your lust for the rich man's gold All that you need is in your soul, And you can do this if you try. All that I want for you my son, Is to be satisfied. (chorus) Boy, don't you worry... you'll find yourself. Follow you heart and nothing else. And you can do this if you try. All I want for you my son, Is to be satisfied. Blake, missing you tonight. I think of you constantly. These Lynard Skynard songs have been on repeat in my car! You would be quite proud! Funny how these were your favorite songs, and how the lyrics actually apply directly to your life. Simple man, is exactly how you lived your life...so simple by being so kind and loving to everyone, not making anything into a big deal, being so easy going. I thought those lyrics would be nice for your parents to see because they did quite a great job of raising you that way. Free bird makes me happy everytime I hear it because you really are free as a bird now...and so happy. LOVE YOU SWEETIE. Tis :)
I visit this site daily ... it's such a beautiful testament to the life of a truly precious soul. I genuinely feel that Blake continues to bless and support his friends and family through the thoughts shared, the love so evident and his beaming smile glowing from every photograph. The lessons, like life, go on and on.
Nicole Lindsay in Florida provided "The Dash" which is posted on the "If I Knew" page. Please be sure to click the link and view that 3-minute movie. It's absolutely beautiful!!!
Yesterday I spent the day working outside on the lawn, that’s the place where I feel nearest to the Divine. While working, my thoughts were on Blake and within my mind I asked, “What’s the meaning of all of this?” Realizing that so many are feeling guilt, anguish, “I could-have’s” and “I should-have’s.” Then a very clear thought entered my mind, “The things in this life which matter most cannot be seen with the eyes, they must be felt with the heart.” I next thought of the Don McLean song, “This World Was Never Meant for One as Beautiful as You,” a song written about the artist, Vincent VanGogh. Then I realized that song is also Blake’s song. “Now I think I know, What you tried to say to me, And how you suffered for your sanity, And how you tried to set them free, They would not listen, They’re not listening still, Perhaps they never will.” The good news is, Blake, we are listening and it is most apparent that your message is this … “Don’t waste time and energy on the insignificant trappings of an ego-driven charade. Instead, follow your heart, notice the incredible beauty of every moment of every day. Waste not one second on regret but look ahead to the creation of a beautiful NOW and consequently a glorious future. Be grateful, be glad and be happy!” Blake lived from the heart, we can too!
It is weird how when you truly love someone, you never ever stop loving them. I sure am missing you today. Can't wait to see you again....Love you.
So I suppose many of you watched the Giants upset the Patriots this past Sunday. I bring it up for only one reason. Blake was born on Super Bowl Sunday, January 20, 1985 at 8:30am. I rememeber it like it was yesterday. I truly believed it was an omen, and that Blake would be where Eli Manning was on Sunday -- on top of the athletic world. I just knew Blake would be a good athlete. How could he not? He was born on a SUPER DAY. Of course, I could see that Jill and Blake needed rest as the sun started to go down, so I left St. John's and made it home just in time for kick-off. The 49ers beat the Bengals that evening. But there was only one reason that day will remain SUPER in my memory -- we had Blake. We had a son, and he was magnificent. Our lives would be changed forever. Now you know my all time favorite Super Bowl story.
Hey Blake! I keep looking at your website and seeing all the songs and poems your dad and Madison and krissy are posting and they all are so perfect in describing you! I was looking for something in my room the other day and came across a box of high school stuff. In it I found a note that Colin wrote me one day at school that you decided to overtake and make it a note from YOU! It made me miss you so much, and got me thinking how much you made everyone smile so easily. You still do. Whenever I am having a blah day I just come and look at your smiling face and read all the things people have said or posted that completely embody how full of life you were and I feel better! Thanks Blake for being such a great friend and such an amazing person. Miss you tons Blake!
When I see the recent photo additions, Blake is still making me laugh. I did not realize until right now that the famous haircut incident happened at MY house. Fred, Jill and Lauren, our thoughts and prayers are still very much with you. You don't see us but we are right there with you in spirit. God bless, Ronda(Barrett's Mom)
I went to Cancun today. No, not the city at the tip of the Yucatan where kids go to soak up the sun at Spring Break. The Cancun I'm talking about is a little Mexican restaurant in Tulsa at 6th & Lewis. Why do I mention it? Because it was Blake's favorite of all Mexican Restaurants. What did he order? The Chicken Burrito. What else? Enough salsa to bathe in, of course. If you knew Blake, you know he LOVED his salsa. And just like Seinfeld, he LOVED to say "salsa." "Pass the salsa, please"..."Excuse me, could we have more salsa?" I loved every single moment with him. And today was yet another reminder of how much I enjoyed his company, and how terribly I miss him.
I'm just hearing about Blake here in Sanford, Florida. Not only was Blake my castmate in Anything Goes, he was my neighbor here at Stonebrook Apartments. On stage or off, I always enjoyed his friendly greeting and the energy that he brought to anything he did. I'm so glad I got the chance to the time with him that I did. Can't wait to see you again, friend.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU to Derek Ormond, Tara Corless and Bobbie Bell in Florida for making the "PERFORMANCE" page a reality. I have wanted to create this page for 6 weeks and now it IS a reality. Please keep those photos and movie clips coming!!! You guys are the BEST!!!
While reading Ernest Holmes this morning, this quote struck me as very appropriate for this website, "All that means anything is that while we live, WE LIVE, and wherever we go from here we shall keep on living." Blake taught us that by example and everyone that knew him knows that the essence of his Spirit does in fact keep on living.
Happy Valentine's Day, Blaker. One regret I'll never have is that it was always natural for you and I to always hug each other and say, "I love you!" I don't think I ever knew just how important that was to our relationship as father and son. I'd give every material thing I own to feel your arms around me just one more time. Because if we could, this time I'd never let go. Feel the love, Blake. Not just from me, but from your Mom, Lauren, and all of us who loved you so much. Love eternal, Dad.
This being Valentine's day...it got me thinking about how the best Valentine's day I have ever had was with Blake! I remember he got me a dozen red roses and a white one in the middle. The card read something along the lines of ... "of everyone I know you are the special one." Of course later Blake tells me "I get all of my tricks from my dad!" ... haha how hilarious. Blake and I did fondue at the Fleischner house...while Fred and Jill crept back in their bedroom for a while so we could have our little Valentine's dinner!!! So cute. I will always remember that. Although Blake was a naturally sweet sweet person, I honestly think he learned alot just by watching his parents relationship. I think Blake was not only told but was given an example of how women should be treated and how a couple should respect each other. He learned alot from them...and somehow I'm the one who got to enjoy it! I remember Blake went on this rampage of how we need to "go on more dates" because his parents had their weekly date night like on Wednesday I believe? I just thought that was so so cute of him. I will always always remember how sweet he was and how special he made everything. Happy Valentine's day Blakey. I LOVE YOU.
Still thinking of you every minute of the day! T.I.N! I LOVE YOU!
Your pictures still make me laugh, and Norman is not as fun without you. Much Love!!
What we do with life on any given day has such an incredible impact. Too often we don’t realize the impact that others have upon us or the impact that we may have upon others … we take so much for granted. We all do that. Blake gave us this gift of awareness … this message to recognize how important each one of us is to the other … to appreciate the given moment. Thanks so much Blake. We love you!
There's something comforting about tradition. Every Christmas, I asked my family to watch "It's a Wonderful Life" with me. When Lauren and Blake were young, they refused to watch it in its entirety. They just didn't have a true appreciation for black and white films made in the '40's. Go figure. Finally, in their teens, they were patient enough to patronize the old man and sit for the entire two hours to watch it from opening credits to the final scene. It's really a marvelous film with so many messages. Blake loved it. Now I can see why. In the final scene (my apologies if you haven't seen the film yet), George Bailey, played by Jimmy Stewart, is saved from taking his own life by Clarence, an angel, who needed to do a good deed to earn his wings. To shake George out of his despondency, Clarence gives George an amazing gift. He lets him see what life would've been like had he never been born. George was able to see how his life created a dynamic that made everyone's life better from George playing a major role in it. In the final scene, George is saved from his creditors by the township, who gladly give him the cash he needs to prevent his arrest. One of the final lines in the screenplay is "No man is a failure who has friends." I bought Blake and Lauren a DVD of this movie this Christmas, but Blake never got to open it. But I will tell you this. The outpouring of affection,love and friendship shown to Blake since he went to Heaven indicates he was a success in every sense of the word. It HAS BEEN a wonderful life, Blake, because you were in it, and you made everyone you touched better because you lived. Miss you, Son. Dad.
Well Blakey, I'm 22 today. I wish I didn't have to celebrate without you. I saved you a party hat! I love you forever and ever! T.I.N!
Love you buddy, miss you.
While reading "The Language of Miracles" by Amelia Kinkade this morning, the following two sentences jumped off the page: "The possibilities of life are endless, and miracles can come out of tragedies. Love can heal, even from the Other Side."
If you have facebook go to this site... http://ou.facebook.com/wall.php?id=9617195&banter_id=9602935&show_all... it is a video clip of a typical Friday night with Blake, Colin, and I lip singing to Ray Jay-One Wish... it is one of the funniest memories I have of Blake...
This past week, a colleague of mine mentioned how much she liked the name, Blake, and asked how we selected his name. I thought that might be an interesting story for those who visit this page, so this is how Blake came to be Blake. In the early 1980's, evening primetime television has as many dramatic soap operas as we have reality programming today. There was "Dallas," "Knots Landing," "Falcon Crest," and one of our favorites, "Dynasty." The patriarch of the "Dynasty" family was a character named Blake Carrington, played by John Forsythe. For those of you old enough to remember this actor, he was also the voice of "Charlie" in "Charlie's Angels." Anyway, back to the story. Blake Carrington was handsome, dignified, rich, and the foundation of the family. We liked the name immediately. We also went skiing in the early '80's with our neighbors Bron and Christi, and Bron's brother, Cameron. Cameron was the tall, dark, and handsome male model type. Great athlete. Cameron's name also made our short list as the delivery time grew near. Then, on January 20, 1985, our beautiful son was born and it was time to give him a name. It was unanimous. It would be Blake Cameron. And from that day forward, Blake made his name his own. Love eternal, Blake.
Hey Blake! So I turned 21 on Wednesday! I can finally go to the bars legally!! Went to NYC to see the family for the weekend and we talked about you!! We might be selling the lake house!!!! It just won't be the same with out you anyhow... We have so many memories of you and I miss you so much! Hope you are having a great time up there! you are so missed Blakers, Love you!
Yesterday was a beautiful 68 degree, very windy, Oklahoma day. Since my daughter Madison lives in Norman, I often will place mementos on Blake’s grave for her. I did that yesterday. While at the cemetery with the wind blowing, I had a little conversation with Blake within my thoughts. I said, “Blake, I know your spirit is as radiant as this springtime sunshine and I know that we decorate your grave for the comfort that it brings to us individually to show you our measure of respect. Your spirit is so full of life within the wonderful memories you made with your friends. You are alive within the impact that your life had upon others.” I felt a simple, “Thanks.” It was a very beautiful and touching moment.
Well I was Florida for the break and couldn't stop thinking about how it was your old stomping grounds... It was so nice there and girls distinctively flocked like the salmon of capestrano! (Dumb and Dumber Quote) I can only imagine what it was like when you lived there. I know you were on my shoulder the whole time so no need to tell the stories... Give the Big Man upstairs some DAP for me pimpin! B-Town
There are places and events Blake dreamed of attending, but regrettably will never be realized. He never went on a Spring Break trip. His favorite state in the U.S. was California, yet not once in his life did he ever step foot on the beaches of L.A. He loved to fish, and we were planning a summer trip to Jackson this year with his cousins and Uncle Jim. Instead, today his Mother and I ordered his headstone and visited his grave. Many thanks to his friends for the flowers and note left there for him this past Easter Sunday. It warms our hearts to feel the love so many people had for Blake. Our sadness over his passing has no boundaries or time limits. For many of you visiting this site, I know you feel the same way. But for Blake's sake, live your life to its fullest potential. Cherish every happy moment. Tell the people you love how much you love them. And do it at every opportunity you're given. Don't be angry about trivial matters. And hold close friends close. And choose them wisely. When you do any of these, Blake will know that he may not have been the best student to ever open a book, but he was a wonderful mentor in the lessons of life. Miss you so much, Son. Dad.
Reading this morning from the book Keep Going by Joseph Marshall, I thought this quote beautiful for this site: "In life there is sadness as well as joy, losing as well as winning, falling as well as standing, hunger as well as plenty, badness as well as goodness. I do not say this to make you despair, but to teach you reality. Life is a journey sometimes walked in light, sometimes in shadow." (Please see full passage at the bottom of the "If I Knew" page.)
Perched here on the 11 floor of Dollar Thrifty Plaza, I have a birdseye view of the four seasons. From those bleak days in December, when the ice storm littered our neighborhoods with stacks of tree limbs, I now see trees sprouting with new life, the grass growing greener (and longer) with each new daybreak, and once again, bright colors where there was once just brown and grey. And I think of Blake every single day. This was the time of year we would begin to play golf with Tom and Kyle. This was the time of year we would light up the Hasty Bake afterwards, and blanket the grill with dogs, brats, burgers and chicken. We would always comment how much we loved the smell of white hot briquets smokin' in springtime. There will, of course, be golf this spring, and the grill will be lit again, but one of the main characters in this rite of spring will be missing. On my way home from work every day, I pass LaFortune Golf Course. As the grass grows greener every day, it's a reminder that this year will not be same. Or the next. Not ever. Miss you so much, Son. Love eternal, Dad.
I love you sooo much Blake. I think of you every single day. Miss you dearly. XoXo Kris
It's raining cats and dogs today Blake. It made me think of last semester when we would stay home from class on rainy days because it was "too dangerous to go outside," even when it was just sprinkling. I think one time we even convinced ourselves a tornado was coming. I miss you more and more every day, and love you always! T.I.N
Hey Blake, it's Dad. Just wanted to say 'Hi' and tell you how much I miss you. There's some things I've learned since you've been gone that I wanted to share with you. At first, I was terrified people might forget you. And then Linda reminded me that people who love you will never forget you. Never. And that's a big list. Bigger than I think you ever realized. I've also learned that what we inherited from you was time. Time that we would've spent and cherished with you through the years has now been given back to us, and with it the responsibility of doing something positive with it. Make sure that we do. Blake, you're such a fine young man. God has blessed you with so many gifts. And now you get to showcase those talents to a much loftier audience. I know in my heart that you're safe, son. And in the comforting embrace of another Father who loves you as much as I do. Unconditionally! Make 'em laugh up there, Blake. You're an entertainer. And you're simply the best. Love eternal, Dad.
I think the most beautiful and amazing gift that Blake continues to give each one of us every day is the realization of how very important we are to one another. For me personally, that just makes me love and respect Blake more each day for the amazing example of LIFE that he lived while in a physical body and for the life-changing love that he continues to share now in spirit. Blake lived LOVE, the most noble cause. Now, Blake is LOVE, in the most pure sense. LOVE is all there is ... thanks Blake!
Hi Blake, it's Dad. Your monument came in this past week, and we all think it reflects you so beautifully. Lauren suggested it read, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God." There are no words in the dictionary that could describe you any better. From the moment you were born, everything about you was "pure in heart". And we have no doubt you have now seen God. While Linda and I were out there yesterday, Colin's mother also came to visit you. She said she comes every Sunday. She told us you were an angel, Blake, and we couldn't have agreed more. She told stories about how accepting you were...how you never judged people, only seeing the goodness in them. She confirmed once again just how 'pure in heart' you lived your life. It was also obvious to us that you had made a positive impact on her life as well. The day before you left us, Blake, you told me you felt you had disappointed me. I told you then, and reiterate now, nothing could be further from the truth. You continue to amaze me at the purpose you had in your life. A purpose that I now know was never revealed to you, even though it was right there in front of us all the time. It was your gift, Blake. You made people better by having known you - even if it was but for a moment. Can there be any greater purpose in our time on Earth? Till we meet again, son, love eternal. Dad.
Today I was leaving the library and I ran into a boy from Bishop Kelley, Bill Bracket. He needed a ride home and so on the way home we got to talking about all of our friends from BK. He told me he had recently ran into Barrett Rousch, Halie Matetich, and the Johnson twins. He asked who all I hang out with from Kelley still and I told him all of those same people and that I have been hanging out with Colin alot this semester. He then asked what Blake has been up to since he had not caught up many Kelley people this semester. He obviously didn't know and I explained to him that Blake left us for a better place. We sat in my car and cried and talked about Blake for awhile. Of course I never want to be the person to tell someone, but somehow it did not seem to bother me because I love talking about Blake and it gave me the chance to do so. We started talking about fun times in high school and how a big group of us would all go and party at Bills dad's warehouse downtown. He started telling me how Blake was always soo nice to him and always took care of him. We started laughing because one night Bill decided to finish a whole bottle of scotch (scary!) but anyways he said Blake kept saying Mannn I'm telling you that's not a good idea! But when it was too late and Bill got really sick, Blake took care of him all night. That's just how Blake was, always taking care of others and never worrying about himself. Bill also talked about how there are alot of people that aren't that nice in high school, but that Blake always treated him like everyone else and that he thought Blake was the most genuine and REAL person. We both talked about how much everyone loved Blake and how he truly had so much to live for. Bill felt bad he didn't get to go to Blake's funeral because he was in Arizona all break and word never got to him. It's hard to keep in touch after high school but when things like this happen, it definitely makes you want to keep in touch with everyone and know what is going on in their lives because life is too short. We both agreed we were lucky to have known Blake because he had the most loving infectious personality that we are all going to miss. Blake, Miss you and love you! Till we meet again! Kris
Hey BF... Just wanted you to know you are missed and loved everyday and not forgotten! Cant wait to see you! Hugs and Kisses Blue Eyes!
As life goes on and we must find our way without the comfort and physical presence of the ones we love so much … we learn from those loved ones as well as from “experience” that we are never truly “separate” at all. Genuine Love is an incredible energy that never fades ceases, falters or stops. Rather, it continues on and on and teaches each one of us as we are able to receive the lessons that indeed life is worth living and though life is often very, very painful, it is that very pain that makes the joy all the sweeter. Many blessings to each of you reading this message for a life of joy, love and laughter…indeed that is all that Blake wanted for any of us to know.
Hi Blake, it's Dad. I do so hope that you feel these words when I type them, because they come to you with so much love. Every single day of my life is filled with remembering yours, and the incredible joy you brought to our lives. Each memory is in high definition and fills a big screen. And each one a full length movie. There were comedies (oh how you made us laugh), dramas (age appropriate), action (you were such a good athlete), and of course, tragedies. But in the end, my son, you were a star. A bright, shining star. Pray for us down here, Blake, 'cause there are many days -- many days -- when the pain of your loss is nearly unbearable. God love you, Blake, like we do! Love eternal, Dad.
Missing you a lot Blake. I am getting ready to come home for summer and it will be so strange not bumping into you and seeing your amazing smile. I know you are with us in Spirit. Miss you.
I was missing you terribly today Blake! It was one of those days... the ones you used to save me from when I would just get too stressed to handle it all anymore. You always knew exactly what to say to me to calm my nerves and raise my spirits. Gosh, how I miss your guidance. You truly were the ultimate blessing to me Blake! I don't know if I ever told you that you helped me get through the darkest time in my life, and for that I am forever grateful. I still thank God everyday for the opportunity to call you my best friend! I cherish every moment and memory I was blessed to have with you! I miss you more than anything, and dream of the day that we will meet again! I Love you FOREVER Blake! TIN!
Good morning, my son. Last Saturday, I played golf -- just the second time this summer. You'll be happy to know you can still beat me. Throughout every hole, I couldn't stop thinking about you. We so enjoyed our time together on a golf course. So afterwards, I went to visit you at Calvary, and teed a ball up for you "for old times sake". I won't keep it there long, but it's our season to play, and I desperately want you in the cart with me when I tack from rough to rough on my way to the green. Your Uncle Bob and Aunt Terry are here this weekend for Father's Day, so watch your ears. I'm sure they'll be burning with all the pleasant stories we'll share with each other about our time with you, and your time with them in Florida. You were the son they never had, and they loved you so much. Speaking of Father's Day, I spent some time yesterday going over the library of 1,500 emails I've saved of conversations we've had online. When we talk this Sunday, I'll share some of my favorites with you. You were such a marvelous, sweet, and kind son, who I just adored. Anyway, Blake, hit 'em straight up there. I'm sure there's never a cloud in the sky, the fairways are wide, and a pro up there is telling you to take your backswing back further and follow through after contact. Oh, and don't forget to take your time putting. A putt counts as much as a drive. I will continue to play golf, Blake, but know that with every game comes a sadness that you're not there with me. I loved your company, your presence, more than anything in the universe. God, please take care of our boy. We love him so. Love eternal Blake, Dad.
Yesterday was Father's Day and it was yet another reminder about the unnatural order of life and the humility we must all endure for what we cannot control. Lauren was eloquent and brought tears when she spoke for both of you, Blake. And her gift then made me smile when I opened up bottles of hot sauce -- especially Marie Sharp's Fiery Hot! Your favorite. And now mine. Love eternal Blake. Dad.
Blake … Did you know?
Did you know on that December day when your heart was heavy and your way seemed uncertain that so many of us loved you so?
Did you know that in leaving you would awaken purpose and passion in so many others?
Did you know that the lives you touched would never ever be the same?
Did you know that the natural way you treated others with respect inspired us to do the same?
Did you know that you would be missed so intensely that buckets of tears would be shed and countless hours spend in contemplation?
Did you know that a simple young man who thought his life meant little could change the world just by living his truth?
Did you know that you were a special soul when you gave others such comfort and companionship?
Did you know when you were making people laugh that that laughter would never be forgotten?
Did you know that new friendships would be born and old friendships would grow stronger just having you in common?
Did you know that you were teaching us the significance within every life?
Did you know that we loved you so?
Did you know?
Carolyn Arkison
June 17, 2008
Hey Blaker, it's Dad. I was running through some emails a few weeks ago that I've saved over the years from you, and ran across your salsa recipe that you discovered when you lived in Florida (circa Jan 2006). You told me to add more jalapenos to it to give it more "spice". I promise to print it out this summer, get the ingredients, and try it. If you liked it, it has to be terrific, because you were the greatest salsa afficianado I've ever known. In fact, Grandpa and I ate at Cancun today, and my mind kept going back to all the times we went there. It was almost embarrassing how many times we'd send the waitress back for more salsa. And then we'd complain why they hadn't memorized yet our insatiable appetite for their salsa and just brought us a pitcher of it when we sat down. I can only imagine that the only salsa better than that will come from your recipe. We all miss you so much, Blake. Its been six months already, and the clock and calendar goes slow and fast all at the same time. Life continues all around us, yet I wonder on a daily basis how it can since you're not here. Love eternal, Blake.
Blake, you are on my mind this morning as you are every morning. In prayer I asked Almighty for a thought that could bring a moment of comfort to those who frequent this site. I was immediately reminded of something my son, Blaine Cameron Baird, wrote when he was 12 years old. Blaine was very troubled at the time about the events of 9-1-1. In his effort to make sense of it all, he wrote, A PLACE CALLED PERFECT: “I think if the world was perfect nobody would be mad or sad and everybody would be happy. Life would never be boring and life would always be fun. There would be no guns or knives or any killing. There would be no worrying or being scared of anything, life would just be joyful. Nobody would die, they would just look young forever and nobody would hate each other, they would love and care about each other. That’s the perfect life and we live nowhere near that so we just have to live life the best we can.” … As you can see, Blake, Blaine is very much like you … precious, genuine and beautiful!
I was watching a movie last night, and one of the lines from an actor was, "The body is the garden of the soul". I thought what a beautiful way to express life and death. Blake loved gardens. He and his Mom would always plant and care for a small garden, and a day wouldn't go by in season that he wouldn't go out to check on it, water it, nurture it. And he was so proud of the fruit or vegetables raised from his efforts. Blake was indeed a beautiful boy. And for those of you who knew him ~ really knew him ~ you know he was beautiful inside and out. His smile lit up a room. His eyes were magnificent. He would welcome you with open arms and a big hug. He had compassion and empathy for those less fortunate. He loved to laugh, to entertain, to dance, and be close to his friends ~ his real friends. Your body, Blake, was indeed the garden of your soul. Till we see you again, love eternal. Dad.
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